Ego~self-esteem; self-importance; self-worth.
Egotist~a person who is excessively conceited or self-absorbed in themselves.
Decree~the official order that has the force of law.
Declare~ saying something in a solemn and emphatic manner.
Pride~feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements if one’s close associations.
Confidence~the feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something.
Growing up, having self-confidence or being bold enough to believe in yourself was taken as being full of yourself or egotistic. It was seen as being in over your head because well, you are not that important and you are just like everyone else. Which to some extent is true but I always believed we are great in our own way-I still do. This self-love journey I am on (still en route) has taught me that self-confidence is important. I have had low self-esteem issues in many areas in my life and at times it was intentional. I have never liked being the centre of attention, so at times I would intentionally dial myself down to try and fit in with everyone else. I know, it’s sad but true.
I would not yield to my full potential because I would try and make those around me feel better about themselves or not feel bad about not doing very well. I realise I was actually setting myself back and damaging them in the process. The first I thought it was the noblest thing to do then, but now that I know a little better, I would have done my best and not limit myself. I would have done my very best, push myself and help those around me. That would have been the best option because we would have challenged each other and grew from that. We would fail, yes, but we would have been confident together.
I was binge watching this other day and I came across a video by Simon Sinek (one of my favourite speakers, oh my gosh!) and he was talking about how Mohammed Ali would always say, “I AM THE GREATEST”.He said it in a way I never imagined and it stuck with me. He said, when Ali was saying (decreeing and declaring -for the saints)that he was the greatest, he was simply talking himself into believing it first. And when he started to believe it not think it, the whole world began to believe with him. It is amazing how this self-affirmation (self-confidence) made him the greatest, all because he believed it and worked towards it(mind over matter). He loved himself enough to believe he was the greatest-just as how you should believe in yourself first before anyone talks you down and defines you.
I understand to other people, it may seem as if I am encouraging pride or forming an egotistic army. Not at all, God wants us to be confident in ourselves and most importantly in Him. The Bible encourages us to be confident because if we are not, we are easily shaken and end up following and falling for everything that comes our way. As Christians, self-confidence is super important-Paul emphasises on it:
2 Timothy 1:7- For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid but gives us power, love and self-discipline.
Hebrews 10:35 v36- Therefore, do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward.For you have the need for endurance, so that when you have done the will of God, you may receive what He promised.
Hebrews 13:6- So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?
This post is for anyone who feels they are not good enough or have been told so I understand, I have been there and will be told so in future. Let us start by believing in ourselves and most importantly God-be it a business plan, career choice, parenting, marriage whichever you are facing be confident and pray. Confidence and pride are completely different, God loves confidence but detests pride. Confidence involves Him but pride replaces Him.
Each day, take a moment to look at yourself and decree and declare that:
I am blessed
I am loved
I am victorious
I am beautiful/handsome
I am the glorious
I am powerful
I am saved
Add more to the list and talk yourself up. Do not wait for anyone to do it for you because no-one might ever say it to you. Believe it and the world will believe it with you.
I will post a couple of videos that have helped me and I hope they help you too. Please remember that you are important, loved, special and beautiful- not in everyone’s eyes (not that it matters) but in God’s heart. THAT MUCH I BELIEVE.
P.S: The last video is a bit focusing on Quarter Life Crisis but I believe it fits here too.