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Hello there friends! I hope you are having a good and healthy day.
I am trying to be a bit more consistent with my blogging, though it was not one of my “resolutions” ( I prefer to call them to-do lists), I guess I might have to add it on the list. Something has been pulling on my heart and I have been thinking about it for a while now, and that is happiness. How do you perceive happiness? What makes you happy? Do you have to work at being happy or are you someone who just oozes happiness that people are drawn to you?
I will be honest, I am one of those people who has to work at being happy. I wish it came naturally to me, but I actually have to put in work to achieve it. As I am getting to know myself and how to handle ” adulting” (which has not been easy) , I have realised the pruning I asked God for is actually taking place. I am learning to understand and unlearn certain things about happiness and what makes me happy.
1. Happiness is from within.
It has always been said that happiness is an inside job and not just a smile plastered on your face. It starts from your heart, with the help of your spirit and soul in unison. I understand it is something which is easier said than done, but there might be other things that might hinder you from experiencing true happiness from within. A good example is childhood traumas ( will talk more on this on my next blog.), which we never consider to affect our adult lives but certain things we experienced as children. Most times we do not even realise we were traumatised until we are older and can not understand why we feel a certain way.
2. Happiness is not the absence of trials.
Happiness does not mean you will never face trials again, it just means you choose to overlook the trials. We will always have problems as human beings but at times, you have to encourage yourself to be happy. Take a moment and be grateful for something in those moments and you will realise happiness will blossom in those moments too. I always remember this verse for reassurance: I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world, you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world. ~ John 16 v 33.
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3. Happiness begins with you.
It has always been one of my prayers to be happy for others and show up in celebration, but I have realised how I have never really taken time to be happy for myself. I lack the same enthusiasm for myself as I feel for others, and I have realised partly it also because at times I look at how people react to my good news. I know, it is quite bad and it has affected the way I see people I have been there for, but I am glad I caught on it sooner than later. Sadly, I am also one of those people who finds it hard to celebrate the small victories but I am working on it because it has hindered me from living in the moment.
4. Happiness is self-care.
It could be reading a book, taking a walk, binge-watching all seasons of The Office or just being by yourself. Happiness is what you make it. It is different for every human being and there is nothing wrong with that. For me, happiness is having a peace of mind that allows me to be productive, sometimes it is reading a good book or chatting with a loved one. Define and create your own happiness and live in the moment. Take time to just live in that moment and not worry about tomorrow or the next hour. Just rest in that and take one step at a time. Prioritise yourself!
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I hope these tit-bits will help you as much as they are helping me and last but most importantly, God cares about your happiness and He is always there when you need Him.
Bye for now!